We all have that friend who always seems to have luck. Who got the best grades at college, applied for a study abroad scholarship and – guess what – got it. That friend who’s successful at work and looks happy with her personal life. You know what I’m talking about, right? And having someone like that in front of your eyes doesn’t make you feel particularly good about yourself. In fact, you find it so unfair that you’re getting no good out of this world, that you can’t stop complaining!
Now, let me tell you this: Have you ever wondered how this lucky friend of yours achieved everything she has? Has she really good luck, like in win-the-lottery-luck? Or has she been working focused on reaching her goals? Sure, there are people who seem to get everything right, and you do need a bit of luck in life, but is it really it? Are you sure her hard work and positive mindset aren’t helping contribute to her success/happiness?
Have You Stopped And Think Why You Can’t Quit Complaining?
Complaining for the sake of complaining is just useless, so let’s find out what are the reasons of your complaints so that you can change your mindset!
Do you really have an issue to complain at, or has it just become a habit? It’s much easier to feel in disadvantage and complain about it, than working on changing what you don’t like.
Ask yourself whether you’re the one boycotting yourself. And in that case, why do you do that? Is it maybe that you’re afraid of failing? Stepping out of our comfort zone might seem scary, but staying there for too long won’t make us happy!
Don’t Compare Your Life to Someone Else’s – What Makes Others Happy May Not Work for You
Is it maybe a little bit of envy what you’re feeling? Look, you don’t have to say it out loud, but being near to a person who’s always happy and who seems to get everything she sets out to… Well, that might let you be a bit jealous, but that’s totally normal, right? You might be unconsciously jealous of your best friend being so happy, but that doesn’t mean you don’t want the best for her.
The thing is that comparing yourself to somebody else is hardly ever a good idea. If you aren’t happy with your life, you’re most likely to think that everybody else’s life is easier and better than yours. But think about Instagram for a minute. Who posts pics where they look miserable? Nobody! You want people to believe you’re having the best time of your life, so you won’t post your boring daily routine, right? And what are people going to think when they see your feed? That you have the best life ever! So stop comparing yourself to one aspect of someone else’s life. It’s just not realistic.
Look, having a positive mindset is half the battle. Try and look on the bright side of life – quoting The Life of Brian here 😀 Instead of complaining, make a plan to achieve your dreams. And think big! The higher you aim, the higher you’ll arrive!
You Don’t Need to Change Just Because Everyone Does!
Last year, I was having a latte macchiato with my best childhood friend and we were chit-chatting after a way too long time. She told me that her husband had just started a new – better – position in a new firm with his boss, who wanted to go to another company and took my friend’s husband with him. He was more than happy to upgrade his career and his salary! Then, she told me that her daughter was also about to get into high school and was so excited about it (her daughter, not my friend).
And when I was telling her how happy I was for those – in my opinion – great improvements in their life, she told me she was scared. She hated changes (!). She was only happy when she felt that she was in control. So many changes were making her feel anxious, and she couldn’t wait for the changes to become a routine. That’s when she’d feel secure again.
And you know why I tell you this story? Because I’m only happy when I have new projects going on. Personal, business or travel projects. Anything I can plan and long for. So I guessed everybody felt the same way. But I was wrong. My good old friend hated changes in her life. But not because she wanted something really bad and didn’t dare to step out of her comfort zone. Nope. She loves that comfort zone. And she’s happy with it!
So ask yourself if you really want that life your friend seems so happy living. Maybe, you don’t even want to change! Not everybody needs it! If you’re happy with your life, stay the way you are and enjoy it! Embrace your comfort zone, and stop complaining about how life’s treating you. You may just be wasting a fantastic life while comparing yourself to others 😉
Change What You Don’t Like – But Stop Complaining and Comparing Yourself to Others!
You are responsible for your own actions and your own success. Are you sure you aren’t making any excuses to avoid changing what you don’t like? Like change careers, start a business of your own, lose weight or travel the world?
If complaining is something you do too often, ask yourself these questions:
- Why do you complain? Do you have real reasons?
- What can you do to change what you don’t like?
- Is it just jealousy what’s making you feel unsatisfied with your life?
- Do you really want to change something?
- Or are you just scared to try something new and use complaints as your shield to avoid stepping out of your comfort zone?
As Maya Angelou once said, if you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
– Maya Angelou